I used to work with Paul and would like to pass my condolences onto his son, Ashley. Please advise when the funeral is and where flowers can be sent.

Thanks

Sue Reed

Some of you will remember Paul from when he and Phil Crosby went up to the
Tower Bridge protest at short notice last year.

Regards,

Ron F4J

paul heward what a mate you were,when their was a laugh in the air you knew paul would be their with a big smile on his face.all the mornings we would share a coffee and a fag never mind the late drinks me paul and his good old mate phill would have.i have so many good memories of paul that they would fill page and page on this web site as he only knew how to have a good time.paul heward this world now that you have gone is not a very good place,but now that you have gone you are not forgotten as you left such a impression on me that as long as my heart beats your memory lives on my friend love

angus

I have known Paul for many years. All of the lovely words that have been written really are so true. 'Paul a wonderful man'

I unfortunately, did not see Paul for a few years as I moved away but I often spoke to him on the phone. This was usually when the double act (Phil & Paul) were hitting a curry house on a Tuesday night or heading off for a beer or two. Paul was always so jovial and very keen to know how myself, my daughter Claudia and my family were keeping. He was so very polite and a truelly genuine man.
A really happy, fun loving soul.
I will always remember the days and times all of us had when the kids were young.
Paul will be greatly missed by everybody that knew him and my thoughts especially go to Ashley and Phil at this very sad time.

God bless you Paul.

Laurie, Claudia-Fawn and Family

Paul and I went to college together and it was with great sadness when I returned to England the time before last to learn that he was ill. I would normally phone him on my arrival and we would meet up for a coffee - more often, though, it would be something stronger!

On that visit when I phoned he said he had something to tell me so I popped round to see him. We talked, shared memories like we always did and we laughed and cried. Life is so, so short. When we were together - which over the last five years hadn't been as often as I would have wished - it was like we were still at college and planning the next student end of term disco or working out where to hide Nick Barwell's peeled grapes!

I was proud to be his best man at his marriage to his first wife, Christine, who we both met on the same course as students. We worked together on two occasions at the end of the 80s when I was going through a particularly difficult time. He offered his support then which was greatly appreciated. Even on the last time I saw him in hospital he was talking about visiting me in Malta - we had discussed it before - but sadly that day was not to come. In my life I have met many people who claim to always maintain a positive mental attitude - for Paul, it was just so natural.

As so often happens with friends we fell out for a while - emotions run high with close friends - but I am pleased to say we made it up and moved on. For that, over the last few years, I will be eternally grateful. My thoughts are with Ashley, Paula and all his family who loved him so much. Paul, have a drink waiting for me on my arrival - who knows when.

Every day the sun rises, and every day the sun will set and the luminescent glow of the moon watches over the night. Wednesday 17th November, I didn’t notice the sun… or the moon. Wednesday 17th November … Paul passed away. First I was sad. Then I was mad. Yesterday I did not notice the rising and setting of the sun. That doesn’t mean it didn’t continue. Life still moved on, and always will. The sun will continue to rise and fall and the moon will continue to shine its intense beauty over the night. Time waits for no one. If I had my way I’d change that so that Paul could still be with us. I’d have been with him to say goodbye. When the sun sets and the moon rises, the moon is a reflection of the sun. Just as Paul passed on, I shall rise and reflect him and all he has shown me. May he rest in a better place and be at peace.

All my love, John Preddy.

Your loss is so great...and to know that Paul can never be replaced ....a good and true friend who shared so many years of happy memories. I feel I don't desserve to add any thoughts to Paul's site as I only met him the once.
I have a memory of a truly lovely man ,whom I met on 5th Nov. for possibly less than an hour. A man who shook my hand and looked me in the eye in such a way that I can still picture his face.I was filled with sadness as I could see how ill he was but I saw a strong and happy person before me. He was all smiles and non complaining.He stood for quite a time without a moan whereas the rest of us were cold and fidgety, watching the fireworks . Afterwards he said how pleased he was to meet me ...shaking my hand and looking me in the eyes yet again. I didnt want him to go ...he just had that warm inner strength that so few people have.....so at ease with himself. He left and I felt very sad knowing I would never meet him again. I I will never forget him.

Anita Ellison

PAUL WAS A NATURAL PERSON, WHO WAS NEVER SELFISH, BUT A REAL FRIEND WHO WAS
SO HELPFUL & GENUINE.

I got used to seeing Paul regular & he was an exceptional person & I
respected him as a friend & someone that I could trust.

Paul was always willing to help & he was always there whatever, but now he's
gone & I' ll miss him dearly.

"If there's a good cafe where you are going Paul I know you'll be in it, &
someday I'll be there to join you mate & we can have a coffee & a fag again,
but this time, I will be a little late".

C U geeza

WOOOSH!

What a lovely guy.

I met Paul just a handful of years ago & didn’t see him that often but, when I did, his big character always shone.

The world is the poorer for his passing.

Barney

I always thought Paul was a Dad to me, he was always there for me and my mum. Or how Paul always used to correct my grammar my mother and I. We had soo many good memories that I will never forget. Even though Paul and I didn’t see eye to eye for two year’s I wish I could have turned back time and change how we was. I’m gonna miss you soo much big man, its gonna be very hard for me to see your son Ashley my brother, go on through his life without you.

I know Paul had a good life in the 100’s of restaurants, café’s and pubs he went to.

It was such a sudden shock for me, I never got to put everything straight between us, your family is gonna miss you.

Im gonna miss you paul. R.I.P.

Jason.

We will always remember Paul for his great sense of humour, smile and kind thoughts. Paul was a fantastic man who thought of others before himself. It’s so sad he has gone but he will always stay in our minds as the perfect gentlemen. We will always be grateful to his best mate Phil for introducing him to us and that we were able to spend some great times with him.

We will miss you!!!!!

Sian Hammond

Paul was a truly genuine man with a big heart and whenever I met him he would have this big hug and kiss for me. We had some fun times like when we went to London zoo, at the last moment he was unable to have his son Ashley but still managed to enjoy the day with our kids. He always looked on the positive side of life with his big smile that would cheer anyone up. I am so sad that we will not be able to go for a coffee or swimming anymore. Paul was a wonderful caring man who thought of others before himself. I will always remember Paul as one of the most genuine and honest people I ever met and I’m sorry Phil has lost a great friend.

I will miss Paul and that big smile

R.I.P

Amanda Brown

Hello! Paul, it me the joung lady who brought to you the breakfast and lunch
in the Hospital. It is incredible how people we can make feel happy to
another people. I have to say that you did it, introducing me your friend.
Thank you. The relationship is one of my priorities in life, and is not very
easy to meet good friends in a diffrent country speaking diffrent
language.And I have to say as well, thank you again to love how I prepared
the food on the plate. Something so simple it was important for me. You
made a simple job a pleasure.

Anna

I've known Paul for many years, and in all that time I've never seen him in
a bad mood. No matter what was going on in his life he always had that
smile on his face, and always made time to ask how things were with you, and
the people close to you.
It makes me feel very sad knowing he won't be around any more, he was such a
gentle, kind person.

I'm going to miss you mate

Andy

I met Paul about 15 years ago, through his friend John Preddy who was my
partner then, although I had not seen Paul for some years as I left
Brighton, what I remember of him was a very friendly, bright smiley person.
Always happy and would always ask about others. I only found out recently
that he was ill through my sister Laurie. I would like to send my
condolences to his son Ashley and family and Phil.
God bless and rest in peace

Fiona Matthews

Remembering fun days out with Paul John and Phil. Hope you are are ok, Philip. Thanks for our memories.x

Louise

Sometimes life can be unkind

It always takes the best we find

God has turned out the light

So this is not goodbye just goodnight

Always in out thoughts

Micky & Carole Turner & Family

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